The term itself, which is often used in psychoanalysis, was created by her father, Zygmunt Freud. The name refers to the Greek myth about Oedipus, who killed his father and married his mother. In part, it is a story about a man's desire for power, possession and domination - a message hidden in the scene of the hero's struggle with Lajos. However, it is clear that the whole myth is centred around the complicated relationship between the child and its parents. In this case, Oedipus unconsciously married his mother, because as a newborn he was abandoned in the woods by his father, to whom the oracle foretold the death of his own son. What exactly is the Oedipus complex in men? And what effect can it lead to?
Oedipus complex in men - what is it?
It is assumed that the Oedipus complex is an internal conflict between human desires or drives and social norms that prohibit physical relations between offspring and parents. It is very closely related to human emotions and the disorder itself develops most often between 2 and 6 years of age.
It is during this period that the development of sexual and physical emotions directed at one of the parents occurs. Children at this age most often start to learn about their sexuality, including through touch, and the first emotions resulting from this experience are directed at people from the immediate environment. Boys most often have feelings for their mother like this. The father, on the other hand, becomes the object of jealousy as the parent's partner. Fear is also often referred to as castration anxiety. This is a fear of revenge from the father for the child's efforts to attract the mother's attention.
When does Oedipus complex in men cause disturbances in adult life?
First of all, not every settlement of the Oedipus complex in men, which was made during the childhood period, ends positively. Very often, in the case of divorce, the conflict continues and is an active problem. Despite the fact that sexual emotions, directed at the mother, are displaced, it does not mean the solution, and in the future results in an emotional disorder. One of the symptoms of this complex is the claim attitude. After the divorce of the parents, the child feels that it has won the duel for the mother's sake.
There is also a difficulty in coping with failures and a strong experience of failure. A similar situation occurs when the parents are still in a relationship, but the father fails to fulfil his mother's expectations and role. The relationship between mother and son is deepening. The child feels that it is more important and therefore better than the father and treats this situation as a victory in a duel for the parent's sake. In adult life, a very strong bond with a mother can result in difficulties in building male-woman relationships. He often gives up his intimate life in order to maintain his relationship with his mother. Many men sometimes redirect the energy generated by the result to other activities, in which they can realize themselves through intellectual struggle.